My Thoughts

Hi! My name is Joanne as it is in the address bar. This blog is mainly to share my thoughts and opinions about most things that come into my mind at the most unexpected timing, some might almost be the real events that happened in my life. Truth, I am pretty straight forward with myself and friends that are close to me, Therefore I apologize if any of my posts will hurt any of you. 

So the first thing I'm going to blog about is, do guys prefer girls who are more tamed and obedient?
I've a habit of observing people from time to time, call me stalker but it's true.

Before that, an introduction of myself.😄.
I'll tend to keep an open mind about things because I believe everything that everyone does have their own explanation, therefore we shouldn't judge anyone without knowing their background story.
This is one of the reasons why I thought of being a lawyer before I tool law in A-levels. I want to provide a voice for those who couldn't speak up for themselves, to protect those who were taken advantage of due their incapability to voice out themselves due to their unforseen circumstances. Talk about being a hero, but that is what I wanted to do before I decided that business is more suitable for my capability compared to going to law school. 

So, back to topic.😁.
Do guys prefer girls who are more docile towards their partner?
I can't give an absolute answer but I personally think, after the experiences I had, they do.
I'm the type of girl who do not show her rebellious side to those whom I just met. Why?

1. I am not close with them, therefore showing them the rebellious side out of the blue just isn't my style.
2. Who am I to give them a talk with my rebellious side unless they speak up to me about their problems in life?
When I say rebellious side, I meant my side that I'll only show to those whom I'm closed with.
Like my sarcastic side, selfish side, mean side, stubborn side, weak and incompetent side, reliant side, depressed side,
These are the sides which I categorize them as the "rebellious side". Due to the fact that people usually do not like this side of me,

I'm the type of girl who listens to what everyone has to say because everyone deserves a voice. I will not show the rebellious side until I get to know them better, which might take up a pretty long time, by long time I mean at least a year, unless you're the type of person who approaches me automatically most of the time, then it might take about 5-6 months.
But due to that, people tend to mistaken me as the type of girl who is shy, who'll always go with whatever everyone agrees on. Well, news flash! That's the last thing you'll every want to think of me. 

Like I said, I am pretty straight forward with my words, but not the type that'll spit acid at you for no reason. I'm straight forward in a way that I'll unleash my thoughts whenever I think it's appropriate.

Especially during times when bad things are happening, I'll say whatever I think we should do to help those in need and take action. Even if everyone says that we should just let those people be, I am not going to let it be. 

I believe that we should help whenever we can. This is the only way to make the world a better place. So what if they're not related to us, so what if they're just strangers on the road side? What's wrong with helping others to stand up when they fall? What's wrong with helping those who are in need and no one is there to help out? We always hope for someone when we're alone, but have we every tried doing it for others?

Call me rebellious, because I am.
Nobody's perfect. There are times when I show the rebellious side unknowingly. I really do appreciate those who decided to stay with me even after seeing that side. 

Even if I'm rebellious I do not go against other people's opinion or decision just for the sake of my own feelings if it's unnecessary.
I've been asked questions like,
'why do you give everyone a small part of your heart, instead of giving those who deserve it a large portion of it?'
'wouldn't you be left with nothing if you keep on helping others even if they don't deserve it?'
'what if they do not appreciate what you've done?'
' what if they're just taking advantage of you?'

Well, I personally believe that helping one another is what humans are supposed to do, even animals know that. The portion of my heart given to people isn't decided by anyone besides myself, I will try my best to help those in need. But that doesn't mean I don't love those around me any less. If they do not appreciate, well, it's okay. I hope they'll remember who helped them when they were in need and help those who are in need in the future. If they are taking advantage of me, just remember everyone has their limit, just because i decided to help doesn't mean I'm letting anyone take advantage. There will be a point when I'll just leave. Because I have helped out enough and now it's time for them to grow up.

Do guys prefer girls who aren't rebellious? Most probably.
They're easy to take care of, they won't go against their partner even if it's wrong just because they love them, they're cute just like how people expect them to be, they'll do whatever their partner wants them to. Simple and easy.
My opinions on whether hiding your true feelings in a relationship is alright.😊 (Skip the next few paragraphs if you don't want to read me nagging) ↓↓↓

Sometimes I think, not expressing yourself just because you love your partner is really dumb.
What's the point of being together if your partner can never fully understand you just because you never speak up?
It's true that sometimes we'll compromise with our partners to prevent disagreements and arguments, but if speaking up, expressing yourself is the cause of splitting up, then that isn't a relationship your partner is looking, he/she is looking for a maid/butler. They're just looking for someone to accompany them when they're in need and when they don't need you, they'll just leave you aside. 

Being in a relationship means both sides will have to accept what they have to offer, not just accepting whatever one has and pretend to be what your partner is looking for, How long can that act last? A year, a few months? Acting isn't going to solve the issue that covering up your real self started. To me, not being truthful to your partner is just the same as lying to me. And lying is the last thing you ever want to do in a relationship.

Compromising with your partner is one thing, but hiding your true self just for them is just wrong. There is very fine line between compromising and hiding yourself. Compromising is when both sides agree upon something even if it they didn't like it. Hiding is just pretending to be something for the sake of getting loved by someone who might not even love the real you. If hiding yourself is what makes you happy, believe me, this is just the short-run, One day, when you actually voice out yourself for once after all the effort you've put into, they'll say, "I guess we're just not suitable for each other". All the love that you gave to make your partner happy by hiding yourself so you can be with them all the time, having the feeling that you'll be need by them. It is a nice feeling. But sooner or later it will fade away.

Conclusion, like finally.😂
Do guys prefer girls who are docile and tame? Maybe.
But in the end, being loved for being yourself is what makes a relationship lasts.
There's no point hiding yourself for the long-term, you may be happy in the short-term and if it's what you want, go ahead.
Love your partner, but don't forget to love yourself, is my advice to every girl who is in love. 😊
Comment if you want to! I don't bite.😁